Family Member Rehab Support

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Recently a family member of mine went into rehab for drug addiction. He is not only addicted to drugs, but has been living a very hard life due to his drug use and other issues. He also is in horrible health. Needless to say, him entering rehab after hitting his rock bottom has been a blessing to us all. We almost lost him in the fall, and now that he is in a safe place and getting treatment! I have so many hopes for him. He’s told other family members how much he likes where he’s at, so that’s a good sign that he won’t try to leave early, which has been one of my fears.

Since he lives in a different state, there isn’t a way for me to go and visit him while he’s getting healthy. I did get his address however, and I plan to write him to show him my support and tell him how proud I am for his decision to get clean. This family member is 20 years older than me. At what point do I stop expressing how proud of him? I don’t want to sound condescending, I want to be be purely supportive. But at the same time I don’t want to push him away and have him think I am looking down on him for what he’s gone through and is going through now. He has a long road ahead of him, and I want him to know he’s not alone and has the support of his family.

Do you have any experience in this realm? It’s all completely new to me. We aren’t very close, but he’s been around my entire life, and well bottom line, he’s family. I’d do anything I could to support family when they are going through a tough time, and I want to aid in his recovery. Any knowledge or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!


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Family Member Rehab Support — 2 Comments

  1. On reading your blog I fully understand where you are coming from. I am a carer for a family member with mental illness and it is not easy to always remain positive and not be condescending. Positive reinforcement can be expressed in many ways so I would look at that. The other important point is as you say show support and that is being there through the good and bad and not judging. Hope these few pointers help.

  2. My professional opinion is that you do not need to tell him how proud of him you are. Tell him the truth, that you are relieved and hopeful. That you want to be part of his support system. What a great question! I am sure other family members of addicts have similar thoughts.

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