As a woman in this modern era, I see competition between men and women all the time. I’ve even been guilty of it. Being in the military had brought out that urge in me, to be an ‘equal’ to be stronger, smarter, faster.
Recently we had a study in church about Titus 2 3-5. Talking about Purified Womanhood opened my eyes to what the bible says about being a woman. The world says we are in competition with men, and that we prove our value when we prove we can do what men do, that we are equal to or better than men.
Titus 2 3:5
Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
We are not men. We were made different, to perform different roles, from the start with Adam and Eve. After learning this, things have changed some in our household, and for the better. I always have had a hard time asking for help, thinking that ‘I can do this myself, I’ll figure it out, I’ll show him I’m as capable as he is.’ The problem with this is that we’re taking away some of man’s roles
16 To the woman he said,
“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”
Our role as a purified woman is to be reverent in behavior, not slanderous or slave to too much wine. We’re to teach what is good and train younger women to love their children and husbands, to be self controlled, be pure, and treat home and family first. We need to be kind, and last but not least, be submissive to your own husband.
Ephesians 5 -
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Now this word, submissive, is a hot button word for many woman. I’m not talking about the submissive like you have no say in the household, that you must cover your face and not let others see you. But God created man and woman differently, and our husbands are the head of our household. A submissive heart is for your husband, not a battle with him. Being submissive to your husband shouldn’t feel like a ‘duty’, it is your role as a woman.
This has been a huge change for me, and only occurred once I started staying at home with my son, and after learning more about the bible and really looking into my own thoughts and actions.
What does it mean to you to be a woman?
Do you have past hurts that prevent you from being submissive to your husband, or taking on the role of being a purified woman?
Have you conformed to an ideology that needs to be removed?